Today, May 3 is Lumpy Rug Day. As I thought about this, I wondered if the rug is lumpy because things have been swept under it. We “sweep things under the rug” of course, when they are embarrassing, or we want to ignore them, or to deny their existence. A more modern idiom is ignoring the elephant in the room.
I am really good at this. I denied the signs of diabetes, even though I knew perfectly well what they were, as several members of my family have had the disease. It took a crisis when it could no longer be swept under the rug for me to admit it, and now that I’m eating right, I feel so much better. A good example of why it’s stupid to ignore a what we don’t want to deal with.
We all have things we’d rather not face, whether they are private to ourselves or much wider. We may ignore the poor in our communities, or the problems in our schools or the drug problems until they hit us personally. It is so much more comforting to just ignore problems and hope they go away. Sometimes the little ones do, but more often they simply grow in the darkness until they get huge and ugly. We may also hide from a bigger problem by emphasizing another, such as when we won’t admit prejudices even to ourselves, instead speaking about enacting a law to “protect children,” or some such, thereby pushing the problem onto someone outside ourselves, instead of facing our own feelings. We often are also past masters at blaming the victims of violence.
So check your rugs today, especially your mental ones. Have you swept something under your rug that should be let out into the sunshine?
Quotes about sweeping things under the rug, and denial:
Let’s not push it under the rug, or push it to the side because, no matter what, it’s going to keep coming up. You know, if you never deal with that dirt up under the carpet, it’s going to get larger and larger, and it’s going to keep coming up.–Herschel Walker
Don’t keep sweeping your troubles under the rug for someday you’ll trip over it.–Taylor Wapaha
From Modern Family: Jay: No, see this is exactly why we sweep things under the rug. So, people don’t get hurt.
Phil: Well, yeah, until you sweep too much under the rug. Then you have a lumpy rug … creates a tripping hazard … and open yourself up to lawsuits.
Apologize when it is time to, instead of sweeping things under the carpet.–Unknown
Delay is the deadliest form of denial.–C. Northcote Parkinson
You will find peace not by trying to escape your problems, but by confronting them courageously.–J. Donald Walters
I think the greatest illusion we have is that denial protects us. It’s actually the biggest distortion and lie. In fact, staying asleep is what’s killing us.–Eve Ensler
Ignoring negative things that need to be changed is destructive and does nothing to alleviate negativity.–Tom Rath
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