January 24 was designated National Compliment Day by Kathy Chamberlin, of Hopkinton, NH and Debby Hoffman, of Concord, NH, in 1998. Compliments are one of those strange things. Too often they are insincere, or we feel they are, so when someone we trust compliments us on something we do well, it can be an amazing feeling. I was in a group once, where we each wrote down one thing we appreciated about each person there. It was quite uplifting to hear people say nice things about oneself. Just the fact that it felt so strange tells us how seldom we compliment others.
Today is a day to look especially at those you know well and comment on one of their strengths that you recognize and appreciate. It’s said someone is more likely to pass on a compliment to another if they have been complimented themselves, so if enough people get behind this, we could start a revolution in kindness! If you are a Twitter user, the hashtag for today is #honestcompliment. If you want more of a challenge, try to find something nice and sincere about someone who isn’t your friend – perhaps a boss or coworker – or even a stranger, such as the checker in the supermarket.
I’m a Quaker, and we are really into queries, which is a fancy word for a thoughtful question. This may be helpful if giving compliments is not your default setting. I know it’s not often the first thing I think about! These come from the Website Idealist Careers.
- What is your favorite type of compliment to give and why?
- What’s the best compliment anyone has ever given you? What made it special to you?
These may help you to frame compliments to others.
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Quotes about compliments
There is no effect more disproportionate to its cause than the happiness bestowed by a small compliment.–Robert Brault
An occasional compliment is necessary to keep up one’s self-respect. The plan of the newspaper is good and wise; when you can’t get a compliment any other way, pay yourself one.–Mark Twain
The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions – the little, soon forgotten charities of a kiss or a smile, a kind look or heartfelt compliment.–Samuel Taylor Coleridge
Pay with compliments and you will always be wealthy.–Mike Dolan
Candor is a compliment; it implies equality. It’s how true friends talk.–Peggy Noonan
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.–Leo Buscaglia
The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when one asked what I thought, and attended to my answer.–Henry David Thoreau
Nothing is so silly as the expression of a man who is being complimented.–André Gide
To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.–Unknown
Everybody likes a compliment.–Abraham Lincoln
If you’re not the one cooking, stay out of the way and compliment the chef.–Michael Strahan
Compliment three people every day.–H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
I am asking that we look a little deeper for the good, that we still our voices of insult and sarcasm, that we more generously compliment and endorse virtue and effort.–Gordon B. Hinckley
I am very happy when people write that they have worn out my books, or that they are held together by Scotch tape. I consider that the ultimate compliment.–Richard Scarry
You have to love yourself or you’ll never be able to accept compliments from anyone.–Dean Wareham
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